Sunday, May 31, 2009

Beautiful Like Me: Me & More Questions

Today I am posting for the Beautiful Like Me Project, a project dedicated to raising awareness about the lack of self-esteem and poor body image in today's youth. We are inviting anyone and everyone to please join us in spreading the word. Please feel free to join in anytime. Also please take a minute to see the other Beautiful Like Me Posters (listed below)! Together we can help today's youth have a positive self-image!


This weeks topic is:
What person or people are the most influential about how you feel about yourself?
Who influences you the most to feel beautiful?

I have been a little busy lately and blogging has taken back burner, so I am running a little late with my post. As always I procrastinated thinking the topic was fairly easy until I sat down to write about it, I know you have heard that excuse before ... but it is hard ... give it a try ... join in and write your post for the Beautiful Like Me Project and let me know what you think, was it as easy to write as you thought?

Things happen for a reason, I am a true believer of that. So yesterday my family was all at the table eating lunch and Caitlyn (age 14) asks: "Why do people always want to change themselves?" I started to ramble about how "it is okay to want to change how we do things and learn new things, that is how we grow ... and growing is a life long experience." So Caitlyn interrupts me and says, "I know all that but why when you ask someone if you could change one thing about themselves, is it always something about their bodies?" Well honestly, I did not have a good answer for her. We did however have a nice conversation about what we like about our bodies and what other things about ourselves we might change instead! I was very pleased when Allyson (11 years old) jumped into the conversation to say that she would not change anything about herself!

So this little scenario does not answer the question posed this week but it just made me think ... as this project seems to like to do.

As I sit here writing with my baby Willy in my lap, curled up sleeping ... I can look down at him and it takes my breath away. His beauty is amazing. He is perfect ... his double chin, almost bald head, big ears, rolly polly arms and legs, and chunkers belly ... every little inch of him is perfect. Any moment now my one year old will come toddling from the bedroom with his hair all scattered everywhere, a soggy wet diaper, and his big elephant stomps ... a picture of perfectness. He too is beautiful. All my children are, as I am sure all of you know your children are just beautiful and perfect! But do they know it? When do they stop seeing beauty in themselves? How can we teach them to see the inner beauty?

There have been few times in my life when I could look at my self and think "wow, you are beautiful" Matter-a-fact, I am not sure that I have ever been able to say that without seeing flaws. Over the years I have really tried hard to except things the way they are and stop judging myself and taken the time to look at myself and find the beauty ... this is not easy for me, this is work. Even despite the fact that many people are very encouraging and kind and frequently express the beauty they see in me, it always seems that it comes down to what I see in myself. I am the one who influences how I see myself and how others see me. If I feel beautiful and confident, it is easier for others to see the beauty within me.

I struggle with the fact that even as I sit here writing all I can think about is the outward physical image of myself. There are so many others parts of a person to find beautiful, how do we program ourselves to look for it? I would be so interested in hearing someone who can not see answer this question?

I am so sorry that this is such a scattered post. I am not able to get a good grasp of my thoughts for this it ... it seems that with each thought I have, it is followed with more questions, so I am off to read other Beautiful Like Me posts (I will link up to them below) in hopes to find answers or at least more to think about!

For more wonderful thoughts on building self esteem stop by all the other beautiful blogs that are supporting the Beautiful Like Me Project! I will be adding as people post:

My Co-hosts: WickedStepMom and Tricia at Shout

Saffa Chick at Wandering Saffa Chick
Lisa P at Use Your Wisdom


Please join us anytime, if you post leave a message with your link and I will add you to my list! Together we can make a difference, each story told touches someones life!

Here you can look at past Beautiful Like Me Posts!

Here is our topic for the next Beautiful Like Me Post and you can always go to the Project Main Page for a list of topics and other information.

Next post scheduled for Monday, June 1st

What event or time did you feel your most beautiful? How did this event shape your view of yourself? Do your family, friends and children know about this event and how important it was?

Thursday, May 28, 2009

These Are A Few Of My Favorite Things!

Okay, here it is ... Mamarazzi's Favorite Thing Swap ...


Mamarazzi over at Dandelion Wishes has just hosted her third Favorite Thing Swap and I participated ... it is so much fun ... in the words of Mamarazzi:
"it thrills me that over 100 women are going to be getting Good Mail this week"
It thrills me too! I am not sure what brings me more pleasure ... putting together my package to mail or receiving my package. I really had so much fun with both!!!So thank you so very much Mamarazzi for organizing this and to all who participate ... stop over at Dandelion Wishes and tell Mamarazzi how great she is AND through Mr. Linky you can hop around and see all the great packages!

BUT WAIT ...
Let me tell you about my swaperiffic package!

I was matched up with Heather at Sugar 'N Spice & Mostly Nice, a busy mom to three boys! I have had so much fun reading her blog and getting to know her and her beautiful family! You should stop over and say hello to Heather, she is so kind and sent me some of her favorite things ... watch below!


Again, Mamarazzi has put a lot of work into this but it has been great! Think about just how nice it is to receive a package of something special in the mail ... if you are anything like me, it is really exciting to have something besides bills and junk in the mail.

PS. I am on pins and needles waiting to hear if Heather received her package ... I had so much fun putting it together, I hope she enjoys it!

Sunday, May 24, 2009

Busy, Busy, Busy ...

So I have completely neglecting Blogland lately, I have been trying to get around and at least read every ones posts but commenting has been little and it has been a week since I have posted. I have composed many posts in my head, now if they will ever get posted is another question!

With the help of many I am working on my new blog ... I had many intentions of updating my blog with the birth of Willy, the debut of Six Flower Mom is just lagging behind ... but it is up and coming soon - I will be moving to Wordpress and have some fun things happening around here ... YEAH!

But this is a glimpse of how my day was yesterday ... so blogging just does not always fit in!

5:00am - up and dressed!
  • Nurse Willy
  • Wake up Jacob because he wants to go with me
  • Move Caitlyn into my bedroom in case anyone else wakes while I am gone!
5:30am - Bring Dan to work, as we sold the truck last week (another story)
  • Drop Dan off 6am
  • Stop at grocery store
  • Home at 7:10am to Caitlyn, Rick and Sam already up
Lots to do before we have to be pulling out of the driveway at 9:00am
  • Breakfast: English muffins with cream cheese, peanut butter, raspberry jam & orang juice
  • Made banana muffins for baseball bake sale (3 dozen regular & 4 dozen mini)
  • Clean up dishes, no dishwasher here!
  • Laundry - 1 load wash and hang out
  • Nurse Willy
  • Email a couple inquires about trucks on Craigslist - typing one handed while nursing
  • Sam & Willy diapers changed & dressed
  • Help Rick with night, night diaper, pee on potty, get dressed
  • Encourage teen girls to get ready quickly
  • Send girls to feed the foster kitties & boys the chickens
  • Pack diaper bag
  • Pack baseball stuff: glove, hat, water bottles
  • Pack entertainment for little ones at baseball game
  • Shower, dress, brush, etc... myself ... with only 15 minutes left
  • Google map directions I need
9:03am - everyone loaded, pulling out of driveway
  • Drop muffins off at bake sale
  • Go to my bank - one side of town
  • Park to nurse Willy who has decided he is starving
  • Go to post office to mail Mamarazzi's My Favorite Thing Swap Package (more to come on this)
  • Go to another bank - other side of town - to pay my rent (I just make a deposit for my landlord who lives out of town, works for both of us)
  • Stop at lawn sale (because really that is what I want to do today)
  • Arrive at field for baseball at 10:30am
Watch baseball game, it was warm and nice and they played well. Will slept in the sling as long as I did not sit down but that is okay because all Sam wanted to do was run every where! Several trips to the potty with Rick (who is doing great with the potty training), a melty messy popsicle, and some cheering for the great players and we made it through baseball!

About 12:45pm - in the car, everyone buckled, air conditioning on ... nap time for the little ones.
Off to run errands (no Rick not Aaron, we are not going to see Aaron:)
  • Stop at house, all kids stay in car, check email to see if anyone from Truck search on Craigslist has responded, mommy use restroom (a necessity sometimes)
  • Pick up a box of glasses and such from Freecycle
  • Go to Chick-Fil-A drive through
  • Nurse Willy
  • Stop at Target to get some outside water toys and baseball bat for Jacob - all 6 kids in Target!!!!!
  • Use restroom, change diapers, everyone pee ... yeah
4:30pm - Home again, home again, jiggity jig
  • Quick clean up from the whirl wind this morning
  • Nurse Willy
  • Clean out car
  • Remove tick from Rick's head -- YEAH
  • Explain why we remove ticks, why we watch for ticks, assure children that they are not going to fall over dead the instant a tick gets near!
  • Kids prepare for water play with their new toys - yes water guns - how else can they squirt each other without running the hose nonstop?
  • Sent a couple more truck inquires & read a couple blogs
5:45pm - Oh my, I have to go get Dan ... what is for dinner?????
  • Load Sam & Willy - others will wait here at the house as they are soaken wet and having fun!
  • Stop to get gas, as my gas light came on as I pulled out of the driveway
6:30pm - pick up Dan - yeah I have help!
  • Stop at store to get something for dinner
7:30pm - home again, home again jiggity jig
  • Girls feed & water kittens, boys chickens
  • Collect eggs
  • Grab clothes off line
  • Clean our litter cats box
  • Nurse fussy Willy
  • Fix dinner: Big Chef Salads, Watermelon, Fresh Veggies & dip - whatever else the kids want for left overs
  • Dan walks fussy Willy
  • Eat ... yummy & Chat: Ally is trying to convince us that we need to adopt one of the foster kitties, Cloud Tail, she says she will take care of him and get a job to pay for everything
  • Clean up some dishes
  • Dan showers
  • Get night, night diapers on Willy, Sam and Rick
  • Nurse Willy
  • Quick tidy
10:00pm - Off to bed: hugs, kisses, & lights out!

Oh Wait - 11:00pm - children with coughing and runny noses ... water needed, some homeopathic tabs for cough and off to bed again!

How do all you wonderful bloggers find time?

Sunday, May 17, 2009

Beautiful Like Me: Dance



Today I am posting for the Beautiful Like Me Project, a project dedicated to raising awareness about the lack of self-esteem and poor body image in today's youth. We are inviting anyone and everyone to please join us in spreading the word. Please feel free to join in anytime. Also please take a minute to see the other Beautiful Like Me Posters (listed below)! Together we can help today's youth have a positive self-image!


This weeks topic is:
In your opinion, what is the best way to build self-esteem?
Dance
(metaphorically speaking)

Each week I am faced with a new question and I think that it is going to be so easy ... I have thought about it and had some great ideas and then, I sit down to post and it gets so complex. My mind starts racing and nothing makes sense!

I have six children and building positive self-esteem is a number one priority but I have no answers. Each child is very different, there needs from me are very different. My oldest daughter has the greatest self esteem: she has always been confident and determined -- YEAH ME! I did a good job BUT then daughter number two comes along, not so confident -- What did I do wrong? And so on and so forth with each child.

So all I know is that each is different and each is ever changing!

But as a parent I will never stop trying to boost my children's self esteem, whether it is through words or my actions I will always try to show them that they are amazingly beautiful people.

Ironically, I recently received the above video, it brought tears to my eyes, I thought it was amazing and I thought "WOW! I bet their parents knew all about teaching self esteem." Just watching these very talented people gave me inspiration.

So I started thinking that maybe another clue to teaching my children positive self esteem is providing inspiration, encouragement and of course positive reinforcement.

So, DANCE or whatever it is that makes you happy and love doing it!

For more wonderful thoughts on building self esteem stop by all the other beautiful blogs that are supporting the Beautiful Like Me Project! I will be adding as people post:

My Co-hosts: WickedStepMom and Tricia at Shout

Jan at Jan's Sushi Bar
Danielle at Boys R Us
Lisa P at Use Your Wisdom
Casey at Half As Good As You
Momma Miller at Miller Memories

Please join us anytime, if you post leave a message with your link and I will add you to my list! Together we can make a difference, each story told touches someones life!

Here you can look at past Beautiful Like Me Posts!

Here is our topic for the next Beautiful Like Me Post and you can always go to the Project Main Page for a list of topics and other information.

Next post scheduled for Monday, June 1st
What person or people are the most influential about how you feel about yourself?
Who influences you the most to feel beautiful?



Saturday, May 16, 2009

Random Picture Challenge

Today I am joining 4 Little Men and Girly Twins with her Random Picture Challenge!
Stop over to see who else has joined!
Maybe you want to join too!

Today's Challenge is
9th picture folder
or September 2008
18th picture


When I saw this picture I was flooded with memories ... September 2009, well actually the pictures was taken the last week of August (downloaded in September) ... almost a year ago!

This is Ally in the back of the mini van, I believe this is the second day of our big move. I'll give you a quick glimpse: pregnant me, five children, four cats in a mini van; daddy and grandma in a 26 foot Uhaul, 1000 miles to a new home we had never seen!!!!

What a trip!


Thursday, May 14, 2009

Take Me Out To The Ball Game!!!

video

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Wordless/Wordful Wednesday - Doodle Bop Ally

Ally loves to doodle!
She draws everyday, this is her passion!
This is just a doodle she did the other day while we were chatting!
The problem is this ... see beside her doodle ... those are my notes from my phone conversation with the insurance company. Allyson will doodle on any paper left within reach! I have sent in bills with doodles, had many notes and other such papers with Ally's doodles on them!!!
She keeps telling me that she is going to move to Japan, join the Sonic Team and be an artist!!!
I say GO FOR IT!!!


A magical day to you!

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Monday, May 11, 2009

Happy Birthday to ME!!!!!!

YES, today is my birthday ... and so I am a year older! I am okay with that, I have never worried about my age. If there is one certain in this world it is that we are all aging, why fight it?

With my children the tradition is on their birthday we tell the story of their birth. This is fun for all, I love remembering the birth of my children and they love hearing about it!!!

This morning I realized I know very little about the day I was born. I know that my mom was young, scared and one of the nurses was not very kind BUT that is it ... I don't know who was there, who came to visit, how my mom felt, or any of those little details that I cherish so much from each of my children's births. So today I am going to ask my mom!

Does your family have any birthday traditions?

I am off to have a family day, my favorite!! Hope you all have a wonderful day!!

Sunday, May 10, 2009

Happy Mother's Day

Happy Mother's Day

Today I am celebrating being a mom. A job that I never knew I would love so much.
I hope all moms have a wonderful day!


Friday, May 8, 2009

Awards & Me: Ms. Undecided

Okay here is my awards post that I started so long ago, really way back in November 2008. These wonderful people granted me these prestigious awards, unbeknown to them that I was not worthy of passing along awards. It is not that there are not so many deserving bloggers. I read blogs all the time written by wonderful, beautiful, creative, funny people BUT I just never know who to pass awards onto. What if they already have it? What if they do not want to tag people? What if, What if? So I never make a decision.

So today my guilt over loaded and I am finally publishing this post, as is ... if you stop by my blog you are awesome, grab an award, pass it along or not! I only ask that you take a moment to look at both my Blog List and Who I Follow because both lists have some great bloggers ... thank you to all who honored me and my blog it is greatly appreciated and means so much to me.

So here is my list of awards, I feel like I am missing one but what can I do!!!

Sara over at Ordinary and Awesome left me this yet another wonderful award.



Kris over at Lily's Licorice left this beautiful award for me.



I was tagged by Lisa at Crazy Adventures in Parenting to do this five things meme. These things are listed not by importance; they are listed by how quickly they come out of my noggin :)

Five Things On My To Do List
1. Enjoy my children!
2. Laundry.
3. Write on my Blog.
4. Clean my house - particularly organize the guest bedroom!
5. Have a wonderful day!

Five Things I Like To Snack On
1. Chocolate
2. Peanuts
3. Peanut Butter
4. Leftovers
5. Popcorn

Five Things I Would Do If I Was a Millionaire
1. Pay off all debt.
2. Help family and friends.
3. Fly home and surprise my family.
4. Buy land and build a house.
5. Travel with my children.

Five Places I Have Lived (have only lived in 3 states!)
1. Duxbury, Vermont
2. Waterbury, Vermont
3. Waitsfield, Vermont
4. Warren, Vermont
5. Hardwick, Vermont

Five Jobs I Have Had
1. Babysitter
2. Manager of Laurel Lee Candies and Christmas Creations Gift Shop (at ski area)
3. Office Manager for HairBuilder's
4. Preschool Teacher
5. My favorite: Mom and Wife and Homemaker!





This was sent to me by Tammy at Pink Stinx

Part of accepting the award is:

*displaying the award
*linking back to the person who gave it to you
*paying it forward & nominating 7 blogs
*adding links to those seven blogs
*leaving comments on their blog telling them you gave them an award
*enjoying the award

I've been tagged by Tiaras and Tantrums to participate in a Real Mom Meme.
Here are the rules: Copy this list to your blog- leaving all links intact- and add in who tagged you. Add your ‘real mom’ contribution to the list, linking it to a post you wrote about being a real mom, obviously. Then tag as many moms as you can and go out and meme-ify the blogosphere!

1. Real Moms don’t flinch when they talk about boobs. They do make you laugh your brains out.
2. Real moms go on vacation and learn to play traffic cop
3. Real moms brag about their kids
3. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth
4. Real moms juggle
5. Real moms “resist the guilt and embrace the journey”
6. Real moms don’t give a damn to media generated Mommy Wars
7. Real moms have kids with potty mouths
8. Real moms know that real life is not like TV sitcoms
9. Real moms: Carry on a telephone conversation while their child vomits on the couch
10. Real moms: Think farting is really, really funny.
11. Real moms: Wear a nursing bra for approximately 7 years STRAIGHT!
  • My story is nothing but spectacular, really, I have been wearing a nursing bra(not the same one people) for about seven straight years. Yep, it is true. How can that bee, well, you have three babies in succession and nurse all those babies - forever. And there you have it!
And for mine: 12. Real moms: will let their children explore who they are!

Happy Blogging and a Wonderful Day!!


Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Wordless/Wordful Wednesday - Minerva Louise

I know another chicken post BUT we do like our chickens and this was just too cute!

This is Jacob holding Minerva Louise! Yes, He can just pick her up and carry her around. He does it all the time!!!
Rick also likes to carry her around and she just does not seem to care!
Minerva Louise was one of our first chickens, the one and only hen out of ten chickens we bought at first!! Funny story! She lays the nicest little pink egg!!
And then yesterday Rick was walking around the driveway in his diaper, mud boots, carrying a chicken ... I just burst out laughing to myself!!!! What a sight!

A magical day to you!

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Tuesday, May 5, 2009

To-do Tuesday -- Working Hard or Hardly Working?

I am just so darn busy working on my list that I have not had a chance to write my post today!!!
If I post it on the internet does that make it true?

Want to start your own To-Do List, stop over and visit Lisa at Crazy Adventures in Parenting with her To-do Tuesday!

Monday, May 4, 2009

Beautiful Like Me: Kindness

Today I am posting for the Beautiful Like Me Project, a project dedicated to raising awareness about the lack of self-esteem and poor body image in today's youth. We are inviting anyone and everyone to please join us in spreading the word. Please feel free to join in anytime. Also please take a minute to see the other Beautiful Like Me Posters (listed below)! Together we can help today's youth have a positive self-image!

This weeks topic is:
"What features/qualities would we like today’s children to see as beautiful?"

KINDNESS

I have been racking my brain ... when I first ran this question through my head 'kindness' came up but then I kept thinking this was just too simple, there had to be more so for two weeks I have been posing this question to myself and here I am Monday morning (I should have this already posted) and this is what I've come up with, kindness!

There is the old saying that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", I think this is true when it comes to qualities we see within people. We seek different qualities in people for many reasons, maybe where we are in our life, what we like to do, what role this person plays in our lives, etc... so I think it is very difficult (for me) to list specific qualities that are beautiful. I think that more a respect for individuality is important.

But as I said kindness just kept popping into my head! I think that if there is one quality that is beautiful in many, maybe any way shape or form it is kindness. Something that I also believe is lacking in our society today. It is funny to me because I think it can be so easy to be kind ... it is a very simple act, but we seem to be out of the habit (or at least some of us). It seems we have become so wrapped up in being "the best", "the first", "bigger and better" that we have forgot the simplest of things: KINDNESS! I also think that in these days of technology we have taken the personal feelings out of being kind. It seems that I do not get the same warm fuzzy feeling from a forwarded twenty times email than I do from just a quick personal note of well wishes. We have become lazy as a society and therefore our children are not learning about simple acts of kindness.

Okay, so I feel as if I am just rambling about kindness and not really making any particular points ... as I sit here typing I can feel what I want to express but I am struggling to find the words to make it leap out into your heart!

For me kindness can be so simple, I think we sometimes believe that in order to make a difference we have to do great deeds and honestly who has the time BUT what I have found is that sometimes it is the simplest thing ... a smile to someone at the grocery store, an understanding about a mistake made, a quick note, a simple task ... sometimes these things can change the course of someones day and maybe even life.

Think about your last trip to the grocery store (not my favorite place to go but a great place to be kind). I was there just the other night, it was early evening, there were many people most probably just getting out of a long day of work, it was raining, many toting tired, hungry children ... matter-a-fact there was a lady in line behind me that had a basket load of groceries, two children that were not pleased about shopping and mom look frazzled. I assessed my situation ... I had my teenager and littlest one, Dan was home cooking dinner, I was in no hurry! So I offered that she go in front of me. She looked puzzled (She clearly had more items then me) and said it was okay BUT I smiled and offered again, assuring her that I was in no hurry and that I understood how shopping with kids can be tough as I have several more at home!! Funny I could see her tension easing, she smiled and started to unload her groceries, I smiled and played peek a boo with one of her children and the other wanted to see 'the baby'! In just a few short minutes she was checked out and on her way ... with a great smile she turned and thanked me, I smiled and said no problem. As she left I hoped that maybe the rest of her evening would go just as well. Yes, I felt proud (goes to show that kindness can be beneficial for everyone) and my daughter observed a moment of kindness (YEAH), and maybe it changed the course of a frazzled moms day (even if for a moment)! Such a win-win situation.

So for me I think that kindness is the most BEAUTIFUL quality any person can possess. What is great is this is a quality that can be taught so lets get out there and make a difference ... be kind! I personally am taking great care to teach my children about kindness, to themselves, to their families and friends and to strangers! If we all were simply kind to one another our world would be a much more pleasant place.

I am feeling very sporadic today, so if you are leaving this post wondering: "huh?" I am not surprised and I apologize. So I will sum it up KINDNESS is BEAUTIFUL, so be kind and teach kindness!!!

In addition to myself check out who else has committed to this project, I will be adding as people post:

My Co-hosts: WickedStepMom and Tricia at Shout

Cate at Nature's Child
Danielle at Boys R Us
Lisa P at Use Your Wisdom
Sprite's Keeper
Mamma Miller at Miller Memories
Wandering Saffa Chick

Please join us anytime, if you post leave a message with your link and I will add you to my list! Together we can make a difference, each story told touches someones life!

Here you can look at past Beautiful Like Me Posts!

Here is our topic for the next Beautiful Like Me Post and you can always go to the Project Main Page for a list of topics and other information.

Next post scheduled for Monday, May 18th
In your opinion, what is the best way to build self-esteem?



Friday, May 1, 2009

A Friday Thought

"If you treat an individual ... as if he were what he ought to be and could be, he will become what he ought to be and could be." Goethe